How to Be a Decent Human When Someone Is Not Decent to You With Dr. Joseph Ciarrochi
On The Wise Effort show, Diana Hill talks with Dr. Joseph Ciarrochi, a researcher in process-based therapy and ACT, about self-righteous anger and how to stay honest and kind when others aren’t. They explore the psychology of getting “hijacked” in conflict, describing outrage and being right as an addiction (experiential attachment) distinct from experiential avoidance, with different intervention implications. Using examples like a conflict with neighbors, online outrage, and relationship fights, they discuss wise distance, not adding fuel to the fire, asserting boundaries when effective, and directing core human yearnings (competence, connection, purpose, meaning, orientation, and feeling) toward what truly satisfies rather than empty status pursuits.
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About Joseph Ciarrochi:
Professor Joseph Ciarrochi is among the top one percent most cited scientists in the world for his work on the development and promotion of well-being.
He focuses on psychological flexibility — what he terms 'flexible strength' — a cluster of skills that can promote personal growth, vitality, and valued action. Related skills include emotional intelligence, mindfulness, psychological flexibility, nonattachment, grit, equanimity, willpower, and emotion regulation.
Joseph is a research professor whose work on well-being and peak performance is grounded in the best available science.
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