Want less drain and more love in your long-term relationship? Becoming psychologically flexible with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help you get present, refocus on your relationship values, and find deeper connection. In this conversation, Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Russ Harris explore five things that drain your relationship, the traps of being right and blaming, a powerful skill to ground you when you are overwhelmed with emotions, and strategies to act with love, so you can get the love you want.
Listen and Learn:
- How has Russ Harris evolved since first teaching about ACT
- Why dropping anchor is a foundational skill in relationships
- The difference between values and needs
- How to get our needs met in relationships
- The power of repair attempts
- 5 things that drain your relations
- How to use the choice point model in relationships
- The flow of compassion in relationships
- Love and pain as intimate dance partners
About Dr. Russ Harris
Since 2005, Russ has run over 800 two-day workshops and provided ACT training for 80,000 health professionals. He has authored four ACT textbooks (ACT Made Simple, Trauma Focused ACT, Getting Unstuck in ACT, ACT Questions & Answers), and four ACT-based self-help books (The Happiness Trap, The Reality Slap, The Confidence Gap and ACT with Love). In addition, he has co-authored two other self-help books: The Weight Escape and The Happiness Trap Pocketbook. His best-known book, The Happiness Trap, has sold over one million copies worldwide, with translations into more than 30 languages.
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