According to Courtney Smith, fear can send us “below the line” in relationships. When you act from fear, you end up scrambling for security, control, and safety–often at the expense of wholeness. In this conversation, Dr. Diana Hill and Courtney Smith, author of Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness,  explore ways to shift into more authentic relating. They explore how to stay grounded while connecting, how to notice when we are caught in a story, and how to become growth-oriented co-creators. Along the way, Diana and Courtney demo some of these skills in their relationship, in real time. This is a fun one, especially if you are craving deeper relationships–ones that meet you at the soul level. 

In This Episode, We Explore:

• How to know yourself and another with one-eye-in and one-eye-out
• Growth mindset in relationships
• Shift moves to approach life from a place of safety
• How to claim what you want, out loud
• What’s really behind envy and what to do about it
• False Refuges finding true security
• The Power of Soul Friendships

Suggested Next Episode:

Episode 114: How To Build Secure Relationships In An Insecure World With Dr. Ann Kelley

Related Resources:

• Pre-order and Claim Bonuses from Diana’s new book Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most
• Courtney’s website
• Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: 
• Learn from Diana at an upcoming event

About Courtney Smith:

Courtney Smith is an executive coach and group facilitator who works with Fortune 500 companies and high-profile individuals to achieve change and live in greater resonance with their values. Courtney is a renowned practitioner and teacher of the Enneagram personality system, which she weaves with other coaching methods into an integrated approach to personal development. She offers Enneagram assessments and one-on-one coaching, teaches in public workshop and professional team settings, and hosts small monthly gatherings in Santa Barbara for women committed to learning and supporting one another to live lives of presence in action. Courtney’s work has been featured on The Goop and Pulling the Thread podcasts, and she is the co-author with Elise Loehnen of the workbook Choosing Wholeness over Goodness: A Process for Reclaiming Your Full Self. Courtney lives in Santa Barbara with her family.

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