Many of us spend a lot of time feeling self-conscious and comparing ourselves to others. Why do we judge ourselves so relentlessly? Why do we strive so hard to be special or successful or to avoid feeling rejected? In this episode, Dr. Ron Siegel shares why we get caught in the habit of endless self-evaluation and how to break it. You will learn to step back from obsessing so much about how you measure up and instead learn to accept the Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary. Build stronger connections with others and get more joy out of life when you embrace who you are as you are.

Listen and Learn:

  • Why being ordinary is a gift
  • The evolution of self-comparison
  • The problem with narcissistic recalibration
  • How we are addicted to feeling special
  • The role of social media in selfing
  • How to make a connection not an impression
  • The benefits of failure
  • Diana’s favorite books to bring peace of mind

About Dr. Ronald Siegel

Ronald D. Siegel, PsyD, is Assistant Professor of Psychology, part-time, at Harvard Medical School, where he has taught since the early 1980s. He is a longtime student of mindfulness meditation and is a faculty and board member at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. Dr. Siegel teaches internationally about the application of mindfulness practices in psychotherapy and other fields, and maintains a private practice in Lincoln, Massachusetts. His books include The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary and The Mindfulness Solution, for general readers, as well as several acclaimed works for professionals.

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